Category Archives: Monday Matters

2/19/24 MondayMatters: Christian Assertiveness

2/19/24 MondayMatters: Christian Assertiveness

Are Christians allowed to be assertive? What does it mean to “speak the truth in love”? The issue of being assertive and being Christian always seems to be a difficult task. Christian assertiveness seems like a contradiction in terms. It is not only possible, but probably important for the Christ follower. Here is a brief conversation about Christian assertiveness.

There is something that feels non-Christian about assertiveness. Christians are supposed to be loving. They should be humble. They turn the other cheek. But assertiveness is not being unkind or rude. Assertiveness is speaking the truth clearly without the intention of hurting someone’s feelings.
In Matthew 15 Jesus at first refuses to heal the daughter of the gentile woman that comes to Him. He appears almost rude. I don’t understand all of that but it does show that even Jesus was assertive.

4 Observations:

1. Assertive is more kind than not assertive.

2. Assertiveness demonstrates trust.

3. Assertiveness puts the relationship ahead of self.

4. Assertive makes room for conversations. (I left this one out of the video.) 🤓

So, learn to “speak the truth in love.”

Say what you mean and mean what you say.

Verbalize your feelings.

Set clear expectations.

And express mutual respect.

Hebrews 12:15 “See to it that no root of bitterness springs up within you..”



10/29/23 MondayMatters: Seek to Serve

10/29/23 MondayMatters: Seek to Serve The discipline of serving changes us like no other. When we realize that our lives are not about us but rather, about Him and them, we begin to experience the “abundant life” that Jesus offered.  We serve in three areas. We serve God. We serve people. And we serve the church. In Matthew 25,… Continue Reading

10/22/23 MondayMatters: The Discipline of Study

10/22/23 MondayMatters: The Discipline of Study

Paul says, “Study to show yourself approved…” (2 Timothy 2:15) Whatever the subject, being intentional about study makes us more proficient, more productive, and more prepared to share our wisdom. Study, specifically study of our faith and the Word of God, improves our walk, informs our talk, and enhances our life in Christ. Here are… Continue Reading

10/16/23  MondayMatters: Keep It Simple, Saints

10/16/23 MondayMatters: Keep It Simple, Saints

One of the often overlooked disciplines of the spiritual life is the discipline of simplicity. Here are 6 steps to help you choose a more austere, perhaps Christ-centered life in the days ahead. For a daily thought about this and other topics, subscribe at, or follow on Facebook or Instagram. (Did I say that… Continue Reading

10/2/23 MondayMatters: Seeing and Being A Means of Grace

10/2/23 MondayMatters: Seeing and Being A Means of Grace   God gives us disciplines, sacraments, and encounters as opportunities to experience His grace. When we do what He tells us to do we experience what He wants us to experience. We call those things “means of grace.” And interestingly enough, at the same time He very often uses us to be a means… Continue Reading

8/28/23 MondayMatters: The Hard Truth About Forgiveness

8/28/23 MondayMatters: The Hard Truth About Forgiveness

At the root of most of our “hurts, habits, and hang-ups” is an inability or an unwillingness to forgive. Forgiveness is the cornerstone of healing, recovery, restoration. But it is hard to do. Here are some thoughts that might help move you along the path from unforgiving to forgiveness. Forgiveness is not a license. I… Continue Reading

7/31/23 MondayMatters: Grandparenting

7/31/23 MondayMatters: Grandparenting

How do you connect with your grandkids? How do we talk to the younger generation in general? Here are five things to remember when you are working with the young people in your life. Remember they are people. Remember they have personality. Remember they have parents. (And you are not them.) Remember they are the… Continue Reading